The psychological definition is “extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterising a personality type”. But what does this actually mean in reality?
At the start you may not quite believe that you have found someone who has fallen so quickly and deeply in love with you. The “love bombing” with gifts, flowers, and constant text messages just confirm how much they care. Who wouldn’t be caught up in the adoration? But to them you are a prize, not a person.
The relationship will not begin with any obvious displays of control; they will not start by telling you what you can and cannot do, and with whom. Instead, the narcissist will surprise you with a ‘romantic’ weekend, when they know you have made plans with friends. Or they will decide that a certain little Italian restaurant would be much nicer than the one you have always been to. They will somehow always seem to be trying to make things so much better fo...
We can all experience anxiety at work or in social situations; but for some, this can become debilitating. Having (or even thinking you may be having) a panic attack at work can be really difficult. The fear of other people noticing what is happening to you can make the symptoms even worse. On top of this, not knowing or understanding what to do increases the fear response circle, so the fear of the fear can become the issue.
If you find yourself in this situation, grounding techniques can be helpful.
So, what is Grounding, and how does it work?
Grounding is a way of keeping your thoughts - and therefore feelings - in the present. It helps you to ignore the thoughts that initially lead to your anxiety, and which could potentially escalate to a full blown panic attack.
Here are some examples of different types of grounding techniques that allow you to focus on the now and avoid intrusive negative thoughts.